Hello to you all my dears. Thank you for reading my blog, it means a lot to me. I know most of you are from BW (for now at least), so before I'm listing the categories of developmental disorders, I'll rant about something that happened this week. I've said it before, but my father and I don't always get along and if there's something he refuses to accept, it's that I have developmental disorders. He often tells me that I'm lazy and that I need to grow up and often tells me things that really hurt and kind of show that I'm not welcome. Other people keep telling me they would have cut contact with him long ago and they keep on asking why I don't stop going to my maternal home, because I live on my own after all.
We managed to find a place for me when I was 20, a year before I let myself get tested on disorders.It's a classroom in an old school building that was being rent to prevent people from destroying it or using it as a squat building. The rent is cheap and it's a lot bigger than your average dorm room and other places being rented out to students, in short, a perfect place for a student, right? Well, not in my case.
It's just a big one room place that lacks outline and it has no structure. There also isn't a sense of safety at all, so it really clashes with my needs and it kind of feels like I'm drowning. I'm also not very comfortable with my neighbours, so I try to avoid most contact with them. It's not their fault though, they're all kind people and fairly understanding and they actually do want to get along with me, but being 'normal' noisy students that like going out and socializing, they're the complete opposite of me and I find it difficult to hang out with them. All this causes me to avoid my place most of the time, only sleeping there and staying in my room on my days off, but after school or my internships and at a certain time on my days off, I would flee back to the safety of my maternal home, which in fact isn't all that safe at all, but to me it's saver than the place I live. There are a lot of people who don't understand that, but fortunately there are also people close to me who do understand it.
Now here is what happened 2 days ago. Like any normal Tuesday evening after dinner and doing the dishes with my younger brother, I was on my laptop checking out BW when my dad started nagging at me yet again. He angrily told me I should get my priorities right, that I should quit playing with childish dolls and that I should grow up. Just the day before he told me I was ruining my social life because I wasn't on facebook enough. When I tried to tell him I was being social on BW and most of the players I know of are above 18 (or at least above 16), he just told me to shut up. I shouldn't talk back to him or else I just could pack my bags and leave because he was sick and tired of me talking back. In the world he lives in, everything is as he says it is, so if he thinks something is childish, it is childish and nothing else. Personally I think he himself is childish, because his egotistical behaviour reminds me of a toddler throwing a tantrum to get things to be his way. To make it worse, it's always me he treats like that, but when my brother who is only 2 years younger than me is playing FIFA on the playstation, my father never complains. After my mother's passing my father has always favored my younger brother and I've always had the feeling I'm not welcome (I don't remember what it was like before, because he was always working the whole day and we'd only see him from dinner at 5-6 pm until we want to bed at 7-8 pm and in the weekends. He got fired because of a reorganization at his working place when my mother was ill, choose to be with his family, but never got a job again afterwards). Well... the disorders I have are often heriditary and I'm pretty certain I've gotten them from him and after my stories about him, my psychologist thinks I'm probably right, but he doesn't seem to believe in disorders, so he'll never let himself get tested.
Categories of Developmental Disorders:
Well... enough of ranting about my father. Here's a list of categories (neuro) developmental disorders, split up according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders or DSM for short. I'm very certain it's a mix of the in 2013 released DSM-5 and the older DSM-IV, since I can't find an accurate list of categories of the DSM-5. I've seen the DSM-IV-tr (tr stands for text revision) in my psychologist's office and I'm very curious about it, so I kind of want to ask her if I could borrow it, but I've seen that the DSM-5 costs almost 150 euros, so I'm very hesitant about asking her...
I'm translating it from Dutch, so the disorders may or may not have the proper English name.
Intelectual Disability (ID) or Intelectual Developmental Disorder (IDD): Formerly known as mental retardation, the most well known disorder belonging with this category is the down syndrome.
Learning Disorders:
This category includes things like dyslexia and dyscalculia.
Motor Disorders:
A newer category that includes Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD), Stereotypic Movement Disorder (SMD) and tic disorders like the Tourette syndrome.
Communication Disorders:
This includes language disorder, speech sound disorder, childhood-onset fluency disorder and the newly classified social (pragmatic) communication disorder.
Eating Disorders in Childhood:
Meaning it's a disorder in eating habbits before 18 years old and not caused by wanting to be super thin to look like models. This category includes Pica and Rumination Syndrome.
Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD):
Formerly known as Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), includes classic autism, atypical autism, Asperger syndrome, Rett syndrome, Pervasive Developmental Disorder not otherwise specified (PDD-nos), Multiple-complex Developmental Disorder (McDD) and Childhood Disintegrative Disorder (CDD)
Attention Deficit and Behavioral Disorders:
This includes Attention Deficit [Hyperactivity] Disorder (AD[H]D), Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) and Conduct Disorder (CD).
Defecation Disorders:
Includes several cases of nocturnal enuresis and in some cases encopresis.
Other Disorders in Childhood or Adolecence:
Includes several disorders that don't fit into the description of the other developmental disorders, like Seperation Anxiety Disorder (SAD), Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and Selective Mutism (SM).
I know there are more disorders than those, but in the DSM book, these are categorized as developmental disorders. In time I will dedicate at least one blog post to each and every above mentioned disorder, so you can find out more about them. But if you're interested in any other disorder that is not mentioned in here, do feel free to ask me and I'll see if I can tell you more about it.
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